There’s plenty of reasons for me to love facebook. It kept me in touch with family and friends after I left Sydney a few years back, it helped me re-connect with my one true love, and it even got me laid on more than one occasion. But today I’ve just had enough…
It’s been over 6 weeks since some big fat bully created a fake facebook account to imitate, intimidate and cause all round grief to my son. I have lost count of the number of times I have reported this account, as well as the numerous other friends, family and blog followers who have also done the same – thank you Missy 🙂 On top of using the report/block link that’s available on this cyber bullies profile I have also reported it using a few different forms that facebook has provided for people to report their accounts getting hacked and under-age kids using the site… but nothing, the profile is still live and the trouble it’s causing just keeps intensifying.
There is no email adress that you can contact at facebook in regards to anything of this sort – simply the block/report link which obviously doesn’t work as one would think six weeks would be long enough for a human being to be able to receive one of the numerous reports about the profile, take a look at it and see that it really does violate their tos and hit delete. I wasn’t impressed when some other sex bloggers had their pages/profiles removed for displaying images of sex toys, and truly started to hate facebook after seeing the movie ‘the social network’ – god that guy is such a wanker. Now that after all this time facebook can go and get f#*%ed for all I care.
Last night sometime this bully was logged into the profile and started chatting to one of my son’s friends who didn’t realise that it wasn’t actually him. Luckily when the conversation became a bit suspicious this kid went and got his mum. She took a look at the conversation and questioned the person involved in the chat only to be told to “fuck off you big fat jew” after which more abusive bullshit was thrown at her.
Being a good, responsible parent she took screenshots of this conversation and arrived with them at the high-school first thing this morning. I’m quite sure at the time she was ready to rip my son’s head off – see this is just one of the MANY occasions I’m grateful that I live in an anti-gun society as the above mentioned comment was one of the tamer ones thrown about in that online conversation. It didn’t take long for the school principal to call my son to her office to question him about the incident, as well as another one involving a seperate student being ‘verbally’ abused and taunted via facebook chat by this bully posing as my son.
It was quickly realised that it wasn’t my son who had been causing the ‘trouble’ as such, even though the person behind it has gone that extra step and created a photo-shopped image of my son (possibly because facebook actually did pay attention to the reports about the previous image being so lewd – thanks facebook for making it worse). When I first became aware of it I reported the situation to the principle & sent her screenshots etc, so she was quick to understand and realise exactly what was going on. She spoke to the mum, her kid, and my son to smooth everything over but my son was in tears that these people had been called such awful things and that it was all done by someone pretending to be him. I got to speak to him briefly on the phone after everything had calmed down and although I offered to come and get him he chose to stay at school and not let these kids get to him.
He was ok when I picked him up after school & dropped him and some friends off at a mates place, but when he got home and didn’t have something occupying his mind he started to fall apart. Swinging wildly between heart broken and devastated to rabidly angry and aggressive – it was very hard to watch as he started to loose control of his emotions. I doubt his 14yr old hormones were helping the situation, but it was very distressing. Trying to calm him down and attempting to counsel and console him is awfully hard when there’s absolutely nothing you can do about the situation.
I’ve called the police on more than one occasion, I even argued for 20 minutes when the sergeant tried to explain to me why the police can’t do anything and what I needed to do to shut my sons account – his account not being the actual problem rather this imitation account which I don’t have any control over. I seriously do not know what to do??
My son is an emotional wreck and understandably he is fearful that another such online chat may occur and result in him being physically assaulted by someone who this bully has been abusing. He is also frustrated that no one seems able to do ANYTHING to get it stopped.
Funnily enough right around the time this started the school had a guest speaker adress the school about facebook and cyber-bullying, in this talk the kids were told that the police have powers to take action, as do the schools. But finding a police officer who cares enough to actually look into the issue rather than trying to hide behind the privacy act – well that is a different story. My boy feels strongly that the cyber-bullying talk was one of the things that sowed the seed in this bully’s mind.
I’m not a mummy blogger and I’m not a member of the P&C, nor any other mum type cliques – so I don’t feel like I have the ability to start a snowball effect and get enough people together to actually do something about this, or even just make enough noise to network with others fighting the same issue. I simply don’t know what to do beyond simply trying to comfort and support my child and hope that eventually facebook will take this profile down.
If only I paid more attention when someone tried to teach me how to hack things like email accounts and facebook. If only I could erase the page myself.
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<li><a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/index.php/review-giveaway-pub-crawl/”>Pub Crawl Passport</a> Deadline: May 10th.</li>
<li><a href=”http://www.jespersunivers.com/toys/?p=2222″>Win a Couture Collection vibe (part 2)</a> Deadline: May 12th @ Midnight Eastern.</li>
<li><a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/blog/welcoming-the-warm-weather-its-giveaway-time.html”>Welcoming The Warm Weather – It’s Giveaway Time!</a> Deadline: May 18th.</li>
<li><a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/2011/05/giveaway-30-to-fascinations/”>$30 to Fascinations Giveaway</a> Deadline: May 21st.</li>
<li><a href=”http://truepleasures.blogspot.com/2011/04/somewhere-over-rainbow-is-lgbtqi-pride.html”>Somewhere Over the Rainbow is a LGBTQI Pride-Inspired Dildo Just for You!</a> Deadline: May 25th @ 11am Central.</li>
<li><a href=”http://naughtymommyreviews.blogspot.com/2011/05/fun-factory-giveaway.html”>Fun Factory Giveaway</a> Deadline: May 25th.</li>
<li><a href=”http://venusetc.com/2011/05/review-sqweel-giveaway/”>Sqweel Giveaway</a> Deadline: May 25th.</li>
<li><a href=”http://duskinchains.com/2011/05/its-a-month-of-fun-at-babeland/”>It’s a Month of FUN at Babeland!</a> Deadline: May 28th.</li>
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<p><strong>Vibrators</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://abedroomblog.com/?p=425″>Tantus Little Secret Touch</a> by <a href=”http://abedroomblog.com/”>the bedroom blogger</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.buzzonvibes.com/2011/05/jopen-vanity-vr6.html”>Jopen Vanity Vr6</a> by <a href=”http://www.buzzonvibes.com/”>buzzvibe</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com/2011/05/fleur-de-lis-desire-vibrator-review.html”>Evolved Fleur de Lis</a> by <a href=”http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com/”>padme amidala</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://andeatingit2.com/2011/05/03/sex-toys-as-pelvic-toners/”>Touch Shaft</a> by <a href=”http://andeatingit2.com/”>Joanna Cake</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/2011/05/i-vibe-rabbit-its-not-you-its-me.html”>i-Vibe Rabbit</a> by <a href=”http://betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com/”>Joan Price</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://venusetc.com/2011/05/review-better-than-chocolate/”>Better Than Chocolate</a> by <a href=”http://venusetc.com/”>Venus</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://curiousnicky.com/review-lelo-gigi/”>LELO Gigi</a> by <a href=”http://curiousnicky.com/”>Nicky</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/blog/nosy.html”>Nosy Toyfriend</a> by <a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/”>HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/je-joue-g-ki-review/”>JeJoue G-Ki</a> by <a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/”>DIY Orgasms</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews/2011/05/bzzz-massager-shivers/”>Bzzz Buddies Shivers</a> by <a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews/”>Naughty Snow White</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews/2011/05/berman-venus-g-vibrator/”>Berman Venus G</a> by <a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews”>Naughty Snow White</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/2011/05/review-jopen-vanity-vr3/”>Jopen Vanity Vr3</a> by <a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/”>Lucid Obsession</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://lucylemonade.com/2011/05/05/matryoshka/”>Matryoshka</a> by <a href=”http://lucylemonade.com/”>LucyLemonade</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.the-sub-mission.com/2011/05/swing-and-a-miss/”>Dream G</a> by <a href=”http://www.the-sub-mission.com/”>Red Vinyl Kitty</a></li>
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<p><strong>Dildos</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://kitoconnell.com/review-donwands/”>Don Wands Cobalt Glass Pleasure Wand</a> by <a href=”http://kitoconnell.com/”>Kit O’Connell</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://kinky-world.net/?p=5470″>Phallix Hearts</a> by <a href=”http://kinky-world.net/”>Mistress Kay</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.heyepiphora.com/2011/04/review-candy-colored-glass-dildo/”>Candy-Colored Glass Dildo</a> by <a href=”http://www.heyepiphora.com/”>Epiphora</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.jespersunivers.com/toys/?p=2363″>Erotic Glass Art Mr. Magic Wand</a> by <a href=”http://www.jespersunivers.com/toys/”>Toys in Love</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://mendthiscrack.wordpress.com/2011/05/07/icicles-no-5/”>Icicles No. 5</a> by <a href=”http://mendthiscrack.wordpress.com/”>Ashley</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews/2011/05/fun-factory-stubs/”>Fun Factory Amor</a> by <a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews/”>Naughty Snow White</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.heyepiphora.com/2011/05/review-goddess/”>Tantus Goddess</a> by <a href=”http://www.heyepiphora.com/”>Epiphora</a></li>
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<p><strong>Anal Toys</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://duskinchains.com/2011/05/review-pleasure-1/”>Happy Valley Pleasure #1</a> by <a href=”http://duskinchains.com/”>Dusk</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://kinky-world.net/?p=5433″>Deluxe Wonder Plug</a> by <a href=”http://kinky-world.net/”>Mistress Kay</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.the-sub-mission.com/2011/05/gigantor/”>Icicles Glass Plug</a> by <a href=”http://www.the-sub-mission.com/”>Red Vinyl Kitty</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://29-pearls.blogspot.com/2011/05/review-3-pandora-prostate-massager-by.html”>Vibratex Pandora</a> by <a href=”http://29-pearls.blogspot.com/”>daniel and frances</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/uni-sex-anal-douche-review/”>Uni-Sex Anal Douche</a> by <a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/”>DIY Orgasms</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews/2011/05/pop-plugs/”>Pop Plugs</a> by <a href=”http://www.naughtysnowwhite.com/reviews/”>Naughty Snow White</a></li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Toys for Cocks</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://www.miaontop.com/2011/05/05/crystal-hand-job-stroker-a-review/”>Crystal Hand Job Stroker</a> by <a href=”http://www.miaontop.com/”>Mia Martina</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/tenga-flip-hole/”>Tenga Flip-Hole</a> by <a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/”>DIY Orgasms</a></li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://kinky-world.net/?p=4593″>SystemJO H2O Flavored</a> by <a href=”http://kinky-world.net/”>Mistress Kay</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://truepleasures.blogspot.com/2011/05/aloe-its-not-just-for-burns-anymore.html”>Aloe Cadabra</a> by <a href=”http://truepleasures.blogspot.com/”>True Pleasures</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://truepleasures.blogspot.com/2011/05/in-love-with-lavender-review-of-frech.html”>French Lavender Aloe Cadabra</a> by <a href=”http://truepleasures.blogspot.com/”>True Pleasures</a></li>
</ul>
<p><strong>BDSM/Fetish</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://abedroomblog.com/?p=450″>Lavish Nipple Clamps</a> by <a href=”http://abedroomblog.com/”>the bedroom blogger</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://kitoconnell.com/review-djrope/”>Doc Johnson Bondage Rope</a> by <a href=”http://kitoconnell.com/”>Kit O’Connell</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/2011/05/review-love-knot-flogger/”>Love Knot Flogger</a> by <a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/”>Lucid Obsession</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://lovelettr.blogspot.com/2011/05/good-vibrations-review-soft-blindfold.html”>Sportsheets Soft Blindfold</a> by <a href=”http://lovelettr.blogspot.com/”>CLP</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15823&reviewid=32898#customer_reviews”>Bondage Boutique Heart Riding Crop Whip</a> by <a href=”http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/”>silverdrop</a></li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Adult DVDs & Porn</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/2011/05/review-sex-goddess-dvd/”>How to be a Sex Goddess in 101 Easy Steps</a> by <a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/”>Lucid Obsession</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://abedroomblog.com/?p=412″>Tristan Taormino’s Rough Sex</a> by <a href=”http://abedroomblog.com/”>the bedroom blogger</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://blog.gaymovies.com/movie-reviews/passion/”>Passion</a> by <a href=”http://blog.gaymovies.com/”>Chops McGruff</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/featured-movies/in-hot-pursuit.html”>In Hot Pursuit</a> by <a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/”>The Porn Librarian</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/featured-movies/tristan-taormino%E2%80%99s-rough-sex-3-adrianna%E2%80%99s-dangerous-mind-%E2%80%93-scene-3.html”>Tristan Taormino’s Rough Sex 3: Adrianna’s Dangerous Mind – Scene 3</a> by <a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/”>J.D. Bauchery</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/featured-movies/scrubs-a-xxx-parody.html”>Scrubs – A XXX Parody</a> by <a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/”>Ginger Leigh</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/featured-movies/official-the-silence-of-the-lambs-parody.html”>Official The Silence Of The Lambs Parody</a> by <a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/”>The Porn Librarian</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/featured-movies/boundaries-7.html”>Boundaries 7</a> by <a href=”http://www.hotmoviesforher.com/”>J.D. Bauchery</a></li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Sex Furniture</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://wantonlotus.com/2011/05/04/review-liberator-bonbon/”>Liberator BonBon</a> by <a href=”http://wantonlotus.com/”>Scarlet Lotus</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://kinky-world.net/?p=5456″>5-Piece Vibrating Position Pillowcase with Dildo Set</a> by <a href=”http://kinky-world.net/”>Mistress Kay</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://curiousnicky.com/review-liberator-heart-wedge/”>Liberator Heart Wedge</a> by <a href=”http://curiousnicky.com/”>Nicky</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.screaming-violet.com/2011/05/liberator-heart-wedge-review/”>Liberator Heart Wedge</a> by <a href=”http://www.screaming-violet.com/”>Screaming Violet</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/cupids-couch-review-2/”>Cupids Couch</a> by <a href=”http://www.diyorgasms.co.uk/”>DIY Orgasms</a></li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Miscellaneous</strong></p>
<ul>
<li><a href=”http://kinky-world.net/?p=5435″>Tantus Suction Cup</a> by <a href=”http://kinky-world.net/”>Mistress Kay</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://www.jespersunivers.com/toys/?p=2332″>Spareparts Joque Harness</a> by <a href=”http://www.jespersunivers.com/toys/”>Toys in Love</li>
<li><a href=”http://kinky-world.net/?p=5426″>Bijoux Collection Deluxe: Striptease</a> by <a href=”http://kinky-world.net/”>Mistress Kay</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/2011/05/review-try-me-condom-gift-set/”>Try Me Gift Set</a> by <a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/”>Lucid Obsession</a></li>
<li><a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/2011/05/review-simply-sexy/”>Simply Sexy</a> by <a href=”http://sextoygeek.net/”>Lucid Obsession</a></li>
</ul>
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Kayla says
*hug* I know how it feels. No, seriously. I was in your son’s place, and it just destroyed me for a couple months. In the end, the bully gave up, but the website would do nothing. Make sure the principle and other school officials understand this, and if possible, try contacting your local ISP and see if they can maybe do something to help. (I’m not sure if they can.)
Screaming Violet says
I think that either I filled out the right form to get them to take action…or the police whom the school contacted had some other way of communicating with facebook cause it appears to have been taken down finally.
As always thanks for your support *hugs*
Lucid Obsession says
There is an option on my Facebook to select “This person is bullying or harassing me” and I can then select one of these options: “Pretending to be me”, “Pretending to be someone I know”, or “Other”. Do you get those options?
Screaming Violet says
thanks sweete – yeah that’s the way I first reported it, but I found another way of reporting under-aged kids using facebook. After filling out that form it seems like they may have finally taken it down today
Ann says
Kids today spend too much time on Facebook, its a cancer
Screaming Violet says
I wouldn’t have agreed with this a few months ago, but today I do. And not wholly because of this bully issue, rather the whole attitude of the guy who founded facebook, the attitude he has passed onto the company – it’s selfish and only concerned with itself. It is simply ridiculous for such a huge site not to have a customer support team that you can contact if you are having issues. I may not pay to use facebook, but I sire as hell help it create revenue by simply using it.