Please let it be safe
Not sure if all of my blog readers know this or not but I have a child (I know gasp!!). I have a 14 year old son. A lovely, kind, annoying, cranky and hormonal 14 year old son. He is an average kid, he gets average grades and acts just like one would expect from a kid his age. He looves footy, lives for WWE and cannot be seperated from his i pod or mobile phone.
He’s absolutely normal and average in everyway.
It’s currently school holidays down here in Australia so he is off on holidays having a ball on the Gold Coast. Theme parks, beaches, and of course girls.
Our home is what I’ve previously called a “masturbation friendly” household. If a bedroom door is closed you simply figure the person on the other side of the door is engaged in something private and you leave them to it. If you are sitting on our lounge there’s at least 10 sex toys within a metre or two of you and often my Soraya is charging on top of the TV. Sex is not hidden in our home. It isn’t blatantly in your face (well at least in my opinion) but it is certainly a place where sex is not a taboo subject.
I have always tried to keep my son fully aware of how the human body works, what sex is and as he grows older we have begun to have discusssions that go beyond just the mechanics of it all. Part of my open door policy on things related to sex I have always ensured that there are condoms sitting available in the bathroom along with plenty of lube sachets. Free for me, my flatmate/ex, my son or even visitors to use. If someone – no matter what their age, is going to have sex I’d prefer it to be safe sex.
Anyway when my son was packing to go away I told him to throw condoms in his shower bag. His dad (the flatemate/ex) shot me the most deadly look I think I’ve ever seen.
“Excuse me? He will not be having sex!” which was later followed by “My son will NOT be having sex at 14! He will not be having sex for a very long time”
I just wanted to scream “Are you Kidding me???” Don’t you live in the same “sex isn’t a dirty word” household as me???
Whilst I’m personally around 95% certain that my son won’t be having sex (be it intercourse, oral sex or anything in between) whilst he is away, nor any time soon there is always that slim chance. There’s also a chance that one of his mates up there might decide to have sex whilst theyre on holidays. In the case that someone may choose to have sex I’d like for condoms to be available.
According to the Kinsey institute 25% of males have had sexual intercourse by the time they are 15 – so I’m not totally insane. I was having sex when I was 14, plenty of my friends – both mal & female were having sex at that young age, one was even pregnant before she turned 15.
Teenagers have sex. They often do so without protection. Some day my teenage son is going to have sex and I just want to ensure he is one of those who do use protection.
And if in the mean time between now & when he does I couldn’t care less if he uses the condoms as water bombs. I simply want him to know that they are there whenever he, or any of his friends do decide they would like to have sex.
Sticking your head in the sand won’t do anything other than earn yourself a kick in the ass you didn’t see coming. Other parents may disagree with me entirely – that’s one of the very reasons why that bathroom cupboard is always stocked!
That’s my rant for the day – thank you for reading, if yu have any feelings regarding teenagers and sex feel free to comment away.